on the first date?

I met this guy and the ual chemistry was great. We were talking and he said he wanted to perform on me. It was great :) So, great, that I wanted give him oral. One thing quickly led to another and then we were having . The was so pionate, the best I have had w/o being in love. I don't know if we will chose to date eventually b/c we both do not want a relationship right now. But I consider more intimate than . I guess my question is what is going on? I knw the ual chemistry is there and it is very strong, but it seems we are getting to know each other second hand..I like this guy a lot. I read on here that it is the general consensus that its of bad character for a woman to initiate with a man. Is it a double standard if a man initiates with a woman? He was not expecting anything in return when he propositioned me. Please do not make judgments abt wat I am doing, Im not asking for a jury to evaluate my character, just ur thoughts on this. thx