Help me. so torn.parents say they will disown me if i mive to get work?

Please help me but pls be kind. Im feeling v scared snd desperate and hve started mefs for severe depression over this. Im a 33yr old fmale-no siblings. My mum is 69 and has just gone nto nursing home care,shes bn seriously mentally ill all her life. My dad nvrlived with us,he lived 20 mins away but i saw alot of him. My mum has total control of her mind,is not psychotic,just unmanagable hypercondria and behavioral issues and is highly verbally and emotionally abusive. The idea is she has a bed in a nursing home but is free to come and stay with dad when well and dad agrees to it. Shes very well cared for. Anyhoe,i live nearby with my partner. We moved here 3yrs ago. We both had very good city jobs but i convinced my partner to move here to be closer my parents. My dad was telling me he couldnt cope and mum was saying i was an evil daughter for living 4hrs away. Bare in mind i visited every 3 wks for whole wkend,rang them separately twice daily and organised everything for them. Bought them both clothes,attended medical appointments with them. Life was hell,work and minding them from a distance. Anyway after moving here we both lost our jobs 2yrs ago. We are living off our savings. No welfare. We need to get work again. My father knows our situation but does not encourage moving to find work. My partner says he wont live a life of no work. My therapist says do what makes me happy,thats its my life. I love my parents and my partnet,but im scared. Pls help me. Im severaly depressed and on meds over this confluct. Iv no family support only criticim. My father says i dont do enough for them. Hel go mad if i move.